If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It can provide you a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
Discernment Counseling is a way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
As a Discernment Counselor I can help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.
You will come in as a couple, but the most important work will occur in your one-to-one conversations with a Discernment Counselor. Why? Because you and your partner are starting out in different places.
The Discernment Counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.
The Discernment Counselor emphasizes the importance of each partner seeing their own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
Number of Sessions
A maximum of five counseling sessions is typical
The first session is usually two hours
Subsequent sessions are 1.5 - 2 hours
Discernment Counseling is not Suited for these situations
• When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
• When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
• When there is danger of domestic violence
If you want to restore your relationship to a place of hope, Discernment Counseling may be just right for you. Please contact me to discuss any questions.